Please excuse me while I gush on my fiancé for just a moment. In the spirit of Valentine's day and everything. Don't worry, this won't take long.
Sometime's I just sit back and watch Rob and think about how I ended up with him. Usually it amazes me, because if I alone were doing the picking I don't know if I would have picked him. You guys read the story about my list. All the dumb things that were on my list did not equate to Rob. I am so glad that I did not end up engaged to someone based on my list alone.
The first thing that stood out to me about Rob was the way he pursued me. It wasn't in any crazy, overt, "Girl, you cute. I want to be with you." type of way (you know you know those guys), but he got to know me with no pressure. I wrote down a couple of years ago that I wanted to be friends first with the next guy I dated. Rob and I became friends easily. He even stayed my friend, and our relationship did not change, after I told him I didn't want to be more than friends that first time he asked me out. Now eventually, the friends to more than friends transition was awkward for me sometimes, but it was leaps and bounds better than the "girl, you cute" guy.
The next thing that was great about Rob was that he had a plan. We weren't just saying we're together for the fun of saying we're together. This relationship was going somewhere on purpose. Sometime, it took me a minute to catch up but he was more than willing to wait. For example, we had been dating a little over a month when he asked me if we wanted to sign up for the "So You Think You Want To Get Married" class at the church. I was taken aback thinking "I don't even know you're favorite color yet" (which is partially true). So he waited until I was comfortable with moving forward and didn't bring it up again. About a month or so later I told him we could go ahead and sign up for the class.
Another thing about Rob is that he always thinks about me first. He's way better at thinking about me first than I am about doing the same for him. In every decision he makes he either thinks about how it will affect me or he just out right calls me and asks for my opinion. It baffles me sometimes the way that he puts my wants and needs as such a high priority. I know people say that this is how it's supposed to be, but I can't be the only girl out here who just didn't think it would happen this way for her. I knew I would end up with a good guy, no one imagines themselves with a bad guy, but this good of a guy?? People just don't get this lucky.
There are so many other things that I would go on about. He is a great leader at work, in ministry, and for me. He is a phenomenal spiritual leader for us. He is willing to work hard and do whatever it takes to make sure that we are taken care of. Even if we have to sacrifice stuff, he makes sure that we never sacrifice happiness. He takes care of me better than I take care of myself. He is goofy and will do anything to make me smile.
To borrow a line from Tyler Perry's Madea's Family Reunion:
“You are a breathtaking reflection of God’s love for me.”
